I think people need to be decisive and grow up. I understand the need to complain about stuff so you can deal with things more easily, but persistent shit talking about a huge problem is not going to change anything. This is not middle school, you are a freaking "adult." What the fuck is with letting problems escalate because you do not have the balls to either suck it up or confront your problems? Decide. Act on how you feel. You are way too old now to be unsure about what the people you let in your life's intentions are. And the only people who will hold anything against you in the long run are people who need to grow the fuck up as well.